Why Doesn’t My Partner Comfort Me?

This week, find out what we mean when we say sometimes you just “can’t magic the milk”.  Comfort means different things to different people.  In this episode, we discuss the many nuanced reasons why we might not get what we need when we are stressed and in need of comfort and what we’ve come to expect from others in those moments.  There’s a bit of attachment theory in here, but forget what you think you know about attachment theory.  We’re breaking it down into easily digestible terms and reflect on the ways in which our expectations shift depending on the situation or the relationship involved.  Jules even throws in an exercise you can try (even if you’re currently not in a relationship) to practice unlearning your unique pockets of insecure attachment acquired over the years.  Practicing curiosity and giving grace is key here.

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