Why Isn't My Partner the Same as When I Met Them?

If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you’ve probably already noticed that they’re not quite the same person they were when you first fell for them.  They might even seem like a completely different person from the one you met so long ago.  So where did they go?  Because you know them so intimately, you can still kind of track remnants in their face or get a brief flicker of that former self in an expression, a gesture, a laugh.  But, seriously, what’s going on here?  Who is this person now and what happened to the one they were before this?  And the one before that?  Of course the answer is simple, but the science behind it is fascinating.  Listen in to learn more about how and why we change, plus a super simple trick you can try to rewire your nervous system for better self esteem.  By the end, you’ll understand why Jules says, “It’s good rain!”

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