Why Doesn’t My Partner Want to Work on Our Relationship?

Relationships can be hard, even healthy ones.  They take work.  So, what does it mean when one partner doesn’t want to work on the relationship and the other does? Is it a sign that they care less than the other partner?  Does it mean their efforts are being overlooked?  How much effort and energy should a relationship take anyway?  Putting forth extra effort to take a relationship to new places involves a certain amount of risk.  Because what if it isn’t reciprocated? Will one of you evolve faster than the other?  What if, after all your efforts, the relationship doesn’t change for the better?  Putting in the work can be scary.  And what’s the role of  (and the difference between) safety and complacency?  So many questions…. Jules, Vickey and Rebecca dig into all of it as a listener asks, “Why doesn’t my partner want to work on our relationship?”

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