Why Did My Partner Have An Affair?

When we think of the concept of cheating, typically a sexual affair comes to mind.  But that is only one form of cheating out of a myriad of ways.  Ultimately, cheating is a betrayal, a breach of agreement.  And too often, our agreements aren’t well communicated.  The risk then is that there are differing ideas of the agreements in place–in other words, an unspoken disagreement in place, with a high chance of someone feeling betrayed sooner or later.  But sometimes, our agreements are clearly communicated and we still fall short of expectations.  It happens.  We have all done it, even if we’ve never had an affair.   So, why do we betray each other, really?  What do we need to do as the betrayer, and as the betrayed?  Is it possible to bounce back from this?  Or are we at a point of no return?  This week’s conversation is a tender one.  If you’ve ever experienced an affair or deep betrayal, regardless of what side you were on, we are holding your pain with you.

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